~Choices ... and ... Regrets~

If you live long enough you will have regrets about something. And, the first regrets that hit you are the ones where you knew you had a choice; where you knew you could stop yourself, but didn't. You stared at yourself in the mirror, and everything inside of you said don't do this and you did it any way. And, in the end you realized how detrimental your choices became.

The wrong choices we make can affect a relationship or a situation to the greater worst.

However,  no relationship is perfect, ever. There are always a time when you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater ... The love you have for each other is bigger and greater than the little differences you encounter.  And that's the key. We can compare this to a pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. The love you have for each other can make up for a lot of short comings you and your relationship may encounter.

Problems in a relationship can occur due to lack of direction and/or lack of quality time being spent together. When problems are encountered in a relationship they just don't go away with time. They get worst unless you deal with them immediately. Holding on to problems and not discussing them are simply not good for any relations.

Robert Frost said " The best way out of a problem is always through".  Most times going through a storm makes for a stronger man and woman once they come out of it.

We  can learn to enjoy the journey of life, even when it takes us in a different direction than we had planned. Hold this truth deep in your heart.

This may seem out of place, but learning to let go of something or someone can sometimes and most times release you from your past.

I guess you can call this an abstract  writing...

~These are my thoughts ... I welcome your comments~

~You Determine the Subject ... I can't~

When we honestly ask ourselves which person or persons in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with you in a moment of pain, despair or confusion, who can stay with you in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face the reality of your powerlessness during that time, is a friend who cares.

We all have secret sorrows that family, friends and the world knows nothing about; and when you choose to be on an island, alone and separate yourself from family, friends and the crowd, many times people call you cold, mean and selfish, when you are only sad and need time alone.  In that type of situation , to have a deep close friend during those moments, who understands without constant questioning, but to be there in silence close to you, ensuring that you feel their presence and closeness, is truly a favorable friend to have.

But know this: a true friend will and should always speak the truth to you in love, even when you are hurting, if it is necessary. I know that I'd rather be hurt by the truth, than to be comforted by a lie.

As beautiful as life is, it can be a awful, ugly or lonely place not to have a best friend or someone that you sincerely love, that just happens to be your best friend, that wants to be near you when your pain seems unbearable.

Over the years there is something else I've learned. I've learned that in life, its not the ladders you climb that makes us successful, but rather the service we offer in this life that truly make us great. I've also learned that we all love competition, I know I do. And, winning is fun, but should I truly be fulfilled by beating someone? Sometimes I wonder! Now, this was a very hard lesson to learn: Gratification at another's expense is not always a commendable truth, but building up others at my own expense is.

Lets face it, the most important relationship your you will ever have in this life other than God is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. But, to have someone always in your corner, who understands your difficult times, who appears without being invited, who looks into your eyes without saying words, knowing the stare into your eyes ensures you a clear and concise understanding, that they are there for you.


I don't know if this makes sense. Heck, I couldn't even come up with a subject. Maybe the subject should have been ... {The Way I Feel} ... I hope you find some solace in this writing.

~I truly welcome your thoughts~

~*The hidden compartments of the mind*~

   
Two pictures: Representing the contrasts of the mind

Life teaches us so much, and sometimes it seems that we retain so little. I say this because we are creatures of habit. Meaning, we repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Thus putting us in the same old familiar predicaments.

My mind seems to constantly run. I sit in the mist of a crowd, and I am only there in the physical, because my mind is somewhere else. Our minds can endure so much, and create an atmosphere that can allow us to cope with or escape.

Perhaps the greatest faculty our minds possess is the ability to cope with pain. Classic thinking teaches us of the four doors of the mind, which everyone moves through according to their need.

First is the door of sleep. Sleep offers us a retreat from the world and all its pain. Sleep marks passing time, giving us distance from the things that have hurt us. When a person is wounded they will often fall unconscious. Similarly, someone who hears traumatic news will often swoon or faint. This is the mind's way of protecting itself from pain by stepping through the first door, (sleep).

Please note: The term swoon is the old fashion way of saying fainted, or temporarily lost awareness because of extreme anxiety.

Second is the door of forgetting. Some wounds are too deep to heal, or too deep to heal quickly. In addition, many memories are simply painful, and there is no healing to be done. The saying 'time heals all wounds' is false. Time heals most wounds. The rest are hidden behind this door, (forgetting).

Third is the door of madness. There are times when the mind is dealt such a blow it hides itself in insanity. Pretending everything is the same and nothing has changed. While this may not seem beneficial, it is. There are times when reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind, and find a place of solitude. 

Last is the door of death. The final resort. And can end, in either Pain or Joy, eternal life or eternal death, Heaven or hell! What happens to us when we die is based on the life we lived while here on earth.

~I trust this makes sense to you, and has enlightened some portion of your life~

~The Power of Words II~

I believe that a person often become what he believes himself to be. I also believe that a person can become incapable of accomplishing certain tasks if he or she continue to say to themselves, "I cannot do it". On the contrary, if I believe I can do a thing and speak positive words concerning that thing, I will find a way to get it done.

We live and breathe words. We were created by God with Words. Words encourage and discourage us. Words can bring victory or defeat, joy or sadness. Basically, all that I'm saying is Words are very powerful, and they carry weight.  Life and death are in the power of words. So, please be careful what you say concerning yourself and others.

Words are pale shadows of forgotten names. As names have power, words also have power. Words can light fires in the mind of men. Words can cause tears to run from the hardest hearts. Yes my friends, words have power, life and death in it's grasps.

Margaret  Atwood said, "A word, after a word, after a word is power".

Words have power in and of itself. It comes from nothing into sound and meaning; it gives origin or life to all things. Therefore, be impeccable with your words. Speak with integrity, Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your words  in the direction of Truth, Love and Peace.

Speak positive words over yourself and your children. Speak things that are not, as though they are.

Everyone of us are born with the gift of words. Just make sure you use the right ones.

~I hope this makes sense ... I welcome your thoughts~

~Opinions, Do They Matter~

There are so many things that are important in life. But, sometimes prioritizing those things can be very difficult.  However, this is what I've come to understand; life is too short to waste any amount of time wondering what other people think about me. Besides, if they had better things going on in their own lives, they wouldn't have time sitting around talking about me.

Whats important to me, is not others' opinion of me, but my opinion of myself. Not being concerned of what others think of us, is very difficult sometimes. I guess its fair to say, the first things we learn are the hardest to forget.

However, the person in this life that you will always be with the most, is yourself. Even, when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! So, while other's opinions can affect us, my opinion of myself should matter most.

Our time here is limited, and no one should waste time living someone else's life. There is a term called dogma, which is actually living the result of other people's thinking. Remember, you have an inner voice, so don't let opinions of other's  become so noisy until,  it drown out your inner voice concerning you.

There is a God ordain purpose for each of us. And, if we listen closely to our own heart's desires, and have the courage to follow your own heart's intuition, immediately, I believe we will be A-ok.  Remember, the term intuition means: The ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.

~Simply my opinion ... I welcome your thoughts~

~Negative Thoughts~

We've heard the term or phrase " you need to balance your life". Well, life is about a balance.  The good and bad, right and wrong, pretty and ugly and the highs and lows. we must understand that there is a key to happiness, and the master is up to you to act once you discover what it is.

Happiness comes from within. It doesn't matter what your circumstances are; happiness comes from within and you have control. You have the power to change your mindset so that all the negative, horrible and punishing thoughts that try to invade your mind can be replaced with positive, joyous and happy thoughts.

Remember, life is series of moments and these moments are always changing. These moments consists of good and bad, positive and negative. Yes, its human nature to dwell on things that are not conducive to our well being, but this channel must be broken!

Listen, moments are precious, so please don't let negativity linger in your mind and heart. As soon as negativity arrives you have the power the change it to positive.  Negative thoughts can create a crisis in anyone's life.

Late President John F. Kennedy made this statement in 1963, before he was assassinated.  "Crisis written in Chinese represents two characters:  The first is Danger, and the other Opportunity: So, lets be positive. By being positive we can save a life, change a mind, or turn a crisis into an opportunity.

Negative thoughts are the causes of all depression and stress. Therefore, never allow your mind to be infected with negative thoughts.

***Alert***

    ~Change your thoughts .... Change your Life...

~These are my thoughts ... I welcome yours~

~The Power of Words~

We live and breathe words and this is why I know and believe that words are very powerful. I now understand that words travel and they carry weight. I do believe that life and death are in the power of the tongue. I also believe that success and failure lies in the power of the tongue as well.

Understand that life is under no obligation to give us what we expect, but the words we speak are. Words have the power to bring greatest of happiness or the deepest despair. Words can transfer knowledge from one person to another. Words can bring healing. The right words can lift a spirit up or destroy that very same spirit.

Therefore, speak with integrity, avoid using negative words that speak against yourself and others. Use the power of your words to speak truth, love and the will of God! Not knowing the force and power of words can be so detrimental.

The power of words can speak things into existence. We are reminded by God to speak things that are not as though they are!

The correct words bring understanding,  soothe emotions, create creativity, can cause positive imaginations, open doors of success and prosperity, bring healing and increase knowledge! The power of words can change any outcome in your life, good or bad. Just remember, negative words can bring defeat, misery, and even death. While positive words will  bring opposite of what I've just stated.


Are your words more Negative or Positive when you speak?

~These are my thoughts ... I welcome yours~