... During Difficult Times ...

During difficult times it seems as though we are alone. We get lost in the pain of sorrow. But I believe we have an inner strength that we do not know we have. I hope you can gain some insight of who you are and what freedom you have during the difficult times in your life!

When someone you love dies, you are given the gift of second chances. Their eulogy is a reminder that the living can turn their lives around at any point. You’re not bound by the past; that is who you used to be. You’re reminded that your feelings are not who you are, but how you felt at that moment. Your bad choices defined you yesterday, but they are not who you are today. 

Your future doesn’t have to travel the same path with the same people. You can start over. You don’t have to apologize to people that won’t listen. You don’t have to justify your feelings or actions, during a difficult time in your life. You don’t have to put up with people that are insecure and want you to fail. All you have to do is walk forward with a positive outlook, and trust that God has a plan that is greater than the sorrow you left behind. 

The people of quality that were meant to be in your life won’t need you to explain the beauty of your heart. They already understand what being human is----a roller coaster ride of emotions during rainstorms and sunshine, sprinkled with moments when you can almost reach the stars.

I’ve learned this over the years, sometimes by listening with calm and understanding, when a person is in pain and trying to share what they are feeling, we can ease their suffering. And, there are time that speaking or giving advice is not in order.

Also, when we are faced with difficult times, we can either make ourselves more miserable, or make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.

The measure of our success will not be determined by how we act during the great times in our life, but rather by how we think and respond to the challenges of our most difficult moments.

Please note: Nothing remains the same. And, the only constant that we have in this life is that God is the same Yesterday, Today and Forever!!!

I hope this writing makes sense and find you where you may have gotten off the path!!!

... As always, your comments are welcome ...

~Does Time Truly Heals?~

There is a  cliche' that states, time heals all. But at this point in my life, I beg the differ. If there is anything certain in life it is this, time does not heal all. Not really.  Yet, many continue to make this statement, "time heals all".  But, I will continue to say,  thats not exactly true.

What I'm about to say may sound contradicting but, here it is. What time does is trick you us into believing that we've been healed, that you are over the hurt from a great loss. But, what time does is lessen the pain. Deep down in your sub-conscious lingers the memory, and when a single song, a picture, video, a fragrance, maybe a tiny light that shines across an empty room, an epiphany can trigger a memory.

Either one of the things I've just mentioned can take you back to that one moment in time that you never really forgotten, but you thought you did. I like to compare our minds to our homes.

• Our minds have a living room where we allow people to come and visit for an open time of conversations and sharing.

• Then there is the bedroom; this is where in our in our minds, we allow limited access, but somethings are shared.

• Then there is the closet; this is where we keep things locked up in our minds and where we maintain secrets not to be shared.

• Then, there is that special room some call the hiding place. In this room and in our minds, we sit and think. And then, we discover  that even though time has moved on, the pain or hurt is very much alive. But, because of elapsed time we've learned to move forward  and live a promising life, even though the wound is still open, it's not bleeding any longer.  (This room should have limited re-visitations). smiling...

These small things are agents of memory. And, they can render pleasant, sad, terrorizing or unexplainable thoughts and emotions. It all depends certain moments in time. I guess you can label this as being the sharp needle points piercing the living fabric of your life.

Listen, life isn't linear. Meaning life is not one dimension only. It is not always straight, direct and undeviating where the heart and mind is concerned. It is filled with invisible threads that reach from your past to your future. These threads connect every second we have lived and breathe. As your life moves forward and as the decades pass, more of these threads are cast. Your task is to weave them into a tapestry, one that tells the story of the time you shared with that special person, etc.

Now, does time heals all?  I don't think so. But what you must do as an individual is make a conscious decision to let go, look forward, and live a joyous, complete and fulling life regardless of these memories. LEARN TO LET GO ... remember the good times, but do not look back if it causes you to stumble.

LOVE
 ...  LIVE ...
         LAUGH!
                          JUST LIVE A JOYFUL, COMPLETE AND PROSPEROUS LIFE

~These are my thoughts ... I welcome yours~