Love's Enduring promise....

In life we encounter so many problems. But, the way we view those problems will determine how soon we will think on a solution. And a solution is waiting, even if the solution is to simply walk away and let go.

I was notified by a friend that her daughter had informed her that she was going to move out of their home and move in with her boyfriend.

This decision was based on a family disagreement......BAD MISTAKE!!! But her decision...

My friend went on to tell me that she could not sleep for crying. She said and I quote "I am not a good parent, I did the best I could for my kids and somewhere, somehow, something went wrong".

Why is my friend beating herself up?... Why is she blaming herself?... Could she be correct? If so, then I guess we all need to start blaming ourselves for the decisions that our children make.

Listen, as parents we can only do our best, and in doing our best we will make mistakes. However, when a child is over 21 and he or she has decided on making a decision that is not wise, and you break it down to them that the decision they are making is not wise, yet they want to do it any way, then the final decision is on them.

1.Proverbs 22:6 (Whole Chapter)Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.This is what I said to my friend:Good morning _____ "believe this, you were and you are good parent. As parents we are forever learning. In our learning we make mistsakes, but you did your best (as you saw it). You protected and provided for your children.

As our children reach adulthood they have the potential to make decisions. And yes, many make the wrong decisions just the way we did.

Never look back unless you can grow and learn. Never allow your heart to have a pity party.

Just as we survived our mistakes, so will they. Always listen with your heart. See and love them through the eyes and heart of God. Trust me ____ one of the hardest things for a parent to do is knowing when to let go. ____ has out grown You and _____. If you must, try and pull them together, use the strength God has given you.

Ask her to stay if you must, but if she refuses, then let her go, but never from your love.


In time your heart will heal and you will see her in a new way. So, cry if you must, but joy comes in the morning. How soon the morning comes depends on you. I love and I will always be here.

Remenber, if it is in her heart to go, then let her go her way. Its time she meet life and it's uncertainties. Let go.... Always Love her....Always keep her bathed in prayer.

If this guy really loves your daughter, then he will do right by her.

So, this is what I wrote for my friend to give her child:

Love's enduring promise...

Always remember that God has written his own story for you;

It is not the feeling of your heart that it should be based upon;

but rather the thoughts of your heart that you need to hear...

Listen for the voice that tells you, this man will care for you, no matter what.

Will he be there to kiss you when you are old and gray?...

Tend to you when you are sick, honor you....

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Mom ... Dad...

Let her know that you will love her regardless of her decisions!!!

Fathers remember, you control the emotional temperature in your home. So, know when to be firm and when to be sensitive to you child's needs. Listen with your heart to understand your child's attitude. Try to understand when they are reaching out.

Always be the bigger, understanding person. After all, you are the parent...
Oh, it is never to late to reconcile with her....{your daughter and your son}...

Never to late....remember that...

when there is a misunderstanding in our home with our children, never get on there level. Always be the parent and listen with your heart.....PLEASE... And say to them what you must as easy as you can, but as firmly as you must..





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A Note from the Heart…

A Note from the Heart….......

Love is something so powerful that can’t be shook.

Once you’vevexperienced True Love, there is no closing the book.

Our chapter is just beginning,

And if the Lord is willing there will be no ending.

A never ending story.

Being united as one, one mind, one flesh, one spirit, one heart,

With something so strong, we can never drift apart.

Pure love, One love, True love is all I learned from you.

Because what we have is so right and so true.

No Matter how much you try to fight it,

My love will see it’s way through,

And always find its way back to you…

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I Love Myself Some You!!!
….A Note from the Heart…

A friend ask if I would write a poem for her to place on her board at work. She gave me the title and the above is what you see.

After reading the poem above, do you remember when your love for that special person had you all happy inside? All you could do was think of them all day. You couldn't sit still and whenever your phone ranged, you would jump to see if it was {him or her}.
Your mind was bathing in adrenaline, you lost yourself as you gazed into their eyes.
do you recall the laughter? The holding of hands? The dinners? Do you recall going every where together, and enjoying it? You could talk for hours, even fall asleep on the phone... the many secrets you shared...

Do you remember when it didn't matter how long it took for them to get ready, because you were so in love?

If so, then what went wrong? how did you get off track? What did you cease to do? Did love really grow cold or did you simply loose your way in a world of survival? Or, could it be, that in the struggle to provide, you allowed your relationship to suffer?

maybe you just forgot what it took to get that person, and now, you've lost your way as to how and what to do to rekindle your love...
Did you allow the bridge of communication to collapse, and thus lost your way in understanding each other? Did you cease to be open and honest with each other?

Do you really know the person you are with, and if not, did you try to know them?

Listen up.... in relationships things happen, and when these things happen, usually the first thing that enters the mind is separation or divorce...

But, is it really over? does it have to be over? I have a saying and that is " water will always fine the low-end of any floor" meaning that, it doesn't matter how level we think a floor might be, should water flood your home it will always settle to lowest end.

All I'm saying is that we, for some reason, seemingly desire to take the lowest and quickest way out of a situation, instead of making an attempt to resolve it.

Why is that? We rationalize in our minds:

1 - He or She doesn't understand me.

2 - We've out-grown each other.

3 - We don't talk anymore.

4 - He has gained weight or She has gained weight.

5 - I'm not turned on anymore.

And so on....

Now... if you are married, you must understand that marriage is a three-way {3} contract. That contract is between You, your spouse and God...

Many have made mistakes in this area, some have rectified and reconciled , and for some, it is to late, because quick decisions were made and they are now with someone new.

To me the ultimate question is, does it really have to be over?

strong relationship involves open and honest communication. As you know:


" Communication is the bridge to understanding"


It is a must to be open & honest. Transparency is a must in any relationship or there will always be a division.

A house divided against itself cannot stand. Please read: Mark Chapter: 3:25 {read whole chapter}.

A relationship does not consist of me, my and I, but {Us & We}.

So, once again, as you re-read the poem above, do you remember now? do you wish to refresh your relationship? Is it to late?

Anytime there is a pulling away within your relationship, it will always lead to someone else squeezing in. Always-sooner or later. I promise you - this is a true statement.

One day, you will me someone, strike up a conversation, find it enjoyable - find that person interesting - begin to like that person - {The same way - when you met that special person you are with now and is now finding that relationship in turmoil.
We are not talking an abusive relationship. We are discussing being in love, and realizing that love has faded and making an attempt to rekindle that love as appose to watching it completely die.

We place a lot of emphasis on feelings. But you know, feelings fluctuate. One day you feel so in love and the next day you don't feel like anything. There were days I did not feel like a father, but that did not change the fact that I am one.

Fact of the matter is , I was and I am a Father. do you understand? This is not Rocket science that I am trying to convey. It is life.


The final decision is always on you. We have no way of knowing whats ahead for us in the future. All we can do is use the information at hand, to make the best decision possible.

So, be wise, seek God's face when it comes to making any decision.


Remembering:
Psalms-18:6 {read complete chapterIsiah- 65-24...

So, will the final decision be yours or God's?


as always, I do not have a monopoly on advice, if this does not apply to you, then let it go, but it does, then please hold on to this, ponder it and seek the face of God before you make any permanent decision.

Just a piece of advice... sometimes a quiet break for a short period from each other is good. Like taking a drive, going into a separate part of the house to read a book, or to watch your special program, and yes, even a visit to StarBucks, ETC.

Don't smother each other. Give one another breathing room. Also, don't get upset when your partner decides he or she wants to do something alone. Instead, welcome it...








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Dignity & Respect!!!

This is a subject that could be difficult to write about, but, it could also be very informative...


Let's first define Dignity and Respect...


Dignity... Quality suited to inspire respect or reverence; loftiness and grace; impressiveness.


Respect ... To feel or show deferential regard for; esteem.



Let's begin...


Why is it that so many women of today just except what a man does and do not expect or demand better?

It seems as though they allow men to obtain exactly what they want so easily. Why is this? is it because of low self esteem? Desperate to have a man in their lives? Weak for companionship? what is it?
This much I do know, that if a woman is not being treated with respect, then she has allowed that man to lower her standards and standardize her character. See definition....of character.

Character... The combination of qualities or features that distinguishes one person, group, or thing from another.


Women understand this - You are very special, you have special qualities, You were created special by God, you deserve the upmost respect, so, if a man is to shallow to give you the respect that you deserve, and if in your demanding respect, he still falls short, then you must be willing to make a decision.


Sometimes the hardest thing in life, is to choose which bridge to cross and which bridge to burn...Also understanding that character is more easily kept, than it is to recover.


Zero respect in a relationship, is like forgetting sugar in a cake. A lack of dignity in a relationship is like a woman without grace...


So women, can you truly evaluate your relationship? On a scale of 1 to 10 how do you rate it?


When you met this guy, and went on your first date, did he blow his horn and you came out? Did he walk up to your door to get you? Did he open your side of the car door to let you in? Did he assist in seating you when you arrive at your destination?


Never settle for less than who you are ... Always expect the best .... Never compromise your character ... Expect to be treated with Dignity ... and ... Respect.


Does he look you in the eye when the two of you are talking? Does he become angered when you are expressing to him how he makes you feel? Does he become impatient during your discussions? These are just a few tell-tale signs of the quality of a relationship or lack thereof...


Listen up...a man will always show who he is, if you would only open your eyes to see.

Look into his eyes, feel him with your heart, listen to him with your ears, watch his body language... You could learn an awful lot.

So, once again, on a scale of 1 to 10, how do you rate your relationship?


Now... To my fellow brothers, when there is an issue in your relationship, and when you and her are discussing that issue or those issues:

1 - Look her in the eyes
2 - Listen to what she is saying
3 - Watch her body language

Reason being, Her eyes may display one thing, her mouth may say another, and her body language could present a totally different senario. So, if you don't understand, then ask questions...

Women are different, they have different emotions, they express themselves differently, so be patient, very patient...

By the way, this is a one-sided view and this does not apply to all women. However, if you fall into this category, then it is up to you to expect and or demand better from him within your relationship...
One more thing to ponder guys. Treat that woman the way you would want someone to treat your mother or sister. I'm sure with the greatest respect and patience.

Women deserve the respect of men...

Ladies, please remember, if you truly want to be respected, then always carry yourself in a respectable manner...



I would like to say this. If what I've said here is not consistent with the truth, then let your mind become a sifter. Keep that which is true and throw away that which is not....





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