A mirror has two images!!!

It is important to be Honest with yourself!!!



For some reason I chose to write about reflections in a Mirror.  I realize that a mirror reflects objects. These objects change as often as facial expressions.

As we know, a mirror is used for personal grooming. Making sure that a dress, slacks or suit is fitting nicely.

A mirror is designed to let you see yourself exactly as you are. But are these reflections true. You will either look good, bad or indifferent to yourself in a mirror's reflection.

The real question is "am I truly and honestly seeing what is there. Is the image I'm looking at, really reflect the person that I truly am?

Do I see Honesty, Integrity, Trustworthiness, Sincerity, Faithfulness, or do I see a person of Dishonesty, Lack of Integrity, Untrustworthy, Lack of Sincerity or an unfaithful person?

Reflections in a mirror can be distorted, just as the picture's reflection above. But, the truth is never distorted. it is plain and simple. Some say otherwise, but I say no way..Now, that being said .. What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Understand, maintaining an image can be very difficult. Especially, if, I'm not a person of Honest character.

You and I both know that looking in the mirror at one self, does not always depict the truth. Even in life words are spoken, pictures are portrayed that sometimes may or may not be true.

Depict: (To describe or portray something in words).

But the things men and women need to believe in and see the most is that, people are basically good and honor courage and virtue is everything.

That power and money and money and power means nothing. That Good always triumph over Evil. That true love never dies, whether I believe it or not.

Man should always believe in those things, because those are things worth believing in.

So, the next time you look in the mirror, look at yourself eye to eye and look to see if those things are present that you truly believe and look to see if the qualities such as Honor, Courage, Virtue, Honesty, Integrity, Sincerity, Faithfulness  and Trustworthiness are starring back at you.

And, if you fail to see these qualities starring back at you, while you are looking in the mirror, then tell me which image is true. The one you see in the mirror or the image that the mirror is reflecting.

The above listing of attributes are choices. If you don't make the choice, then the lack of choice will categorize you and make YOU!!!

Attribute:  {Assign qualities to somebody or something} To regard somebody or something as having particular qualities.

A mirror is an object that reflects light or sound in a way that preserves much of its original quality prior to its contact with the mirror.


Think about it ......??????


These are my thoughts .... I welcome yours!!!

Attitudes, Opinions and The ability to reason!!!

 

As you know, relationships can be very taxing at times. Yet, when you truly care for someone, love and compassion must be the foundation, as well as the ability to reason together.

However, in this writing I wish to point out three things that can ruin any relationship and it does not matter how rich, handsome, beautiful or your status in society.

I want to deal with my subject from a male perspective. And I chose to do this because as men we can have such a dominating Attitude, we can be very Opinionated and The Lack of Ability to reason.

It is either Our way or No way at all!!! BAD MISTAKE!!!

Men are notorious about giving their opinion and advice, displaying an Attitude when their opinions are not received and then show a lack of ability to even desire to reason.

Alert, Alert Alert!!!! ... Contrary to popular demand, Women have opinions too, and can give advice and have the option of rejecting yours.

Why do we (men) think that our advice and opinions are the only ones that counts. Men wake up!!! Before it's to late!

Understand, a relationship between a woman and a man does not mean, The man is a Dictator,  you sir are not the Boss and your Attitude should not be My way or No way!!! There is a beautiful gospel song that says "Come, Let us reason together"

This is a sure way to End, what could have been and should have been a Great relationship. And, in many instances, this knowledge is discovered after a Breakup or Divorce.

My question to you sir: Is this what you truly want?  Throw your pride out of the window and please answer the question honestly. 

 Here are the three words that kill any relationship:  if not used correctly!

• Attitude
• Opinion
• The ability to reason together

Attitude: it's been stated that attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.

It will make or break a company … Church … or Home. The remarkable thing is, we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past … we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.

The only thing we can do is plan on the one thing we have, and that is our attitude … I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … We are in charge of our attitudes.

Opinion:  Attitude; Outlook; formal Judgment or Estimation.

In general, an opinion is a subjective belief, and is the result of emotion or interpretation of facts. An opinion may be supported by an argument, although people may draw opposing opinions from the same set of facts. Opinions rarely change without new arguments being presented. However, it can be reasoned that one opinion is better supported by the facts than another by analyzing the supporting arguments. In casual use, the term opinion may be the result of a person's perspective, understanding, particular feelings, beliefs, and desires. It may refer to unsubstantiated information, in contrast to knowledge and fact-based beliefs.

 Know this, Your Opinions are not always  a true assessment of a situation. It is your observation of how you see it. She has an opinion too. Opinions can also be very offensive, hurtful and painful! So, when you share your opinion consider her feelings as well. Know that  the world as large as it is, does not evolve around you and your opinion(s).

The ability to reason together: Find a solution to a problem by considering possible options.

Many times when opinions are given and discussions take place, it leads into arguments. The arguments are usually initiated because one person has sat and thought during the day, forming an opinion of a situation, and developing an attitude that makes reasoning absolutely impossible.

From there, harsh words maybe spoken that can cut deeper than the sharpest knife. The wound can be so deep until healing is impossible. Thus leading to the death of a relationship or marriage.

The Roses, Diamonds or Chocolates you bring, in hope of making up; may not stop the bleeding from the wound you've opened up. Harsh words can cut very deep and may not stop your relationship or marriage from bleeding to death!!!

We as men must understand that women are different. Yes The man is the authoritative figure over the wife, but he is not to be Boss or a Dictator. God is the head of the man and expects the man to lead his family correctly.

So often, we marry and immediately the man's attitude is (I'm the Boss. You should obey Me), What I say goes is the attutude. And you know what?... Whispering 'He doesn't know the first thing about being a husband and a leader.

We must learn when to be Men of velvet: Kind, sensitive, understanding, tender hearted.

And when to be Men of steel: Firm, Strong and Direct ... but still with sensitivity!!!

Women are to us as a help-mate. to love, cherish, protect and provide for...

Please remember, I'm not an expert, I'm not Dr. Phil, I'm just Bernard Edwards. A country boy from Hartsville, SC and felt compelled to write this. I trust this article will be of help to you.

Never forget: The wrong Attitude and Opinion can Disintegrate the ability to reason together and destroy a relationship.

Disintegrate: to destroy the cohesion, unity, or wholeness of something, or undergo such destruction

Change your atttitude, Be sensitive when giving your opinion. Give her a chance to rebut your opinion, without becoming emotional and Be ready to reason together.

Don't allow anger to enter in and please understand this, your opinion is like a body .... Everyone has one. 

These are my thoughts ... I welcome yours!!!

Small, Quite - Silent Power....

So often we think that power should be expressed in a loud way to get the attention we desire! We have a sense of sticking out our chest, open our eyes as wide open as we can get them, and speaking in a loud boisterous deep voice. And, in some instances we use four letter word to get our points across.

Or.... we like to show off our muscles ( if we have them), by spreading our arms and walking in a certain way to express power and strength.

Some, ride around in fancy cars or have chauffeurs to drive them around to express power and wealth. And, of course, these technics do work in certain environments.

I've learned that power can be expressed in a quiet, silent, but powerful way.


Examples: The Iceberg. silent and practically invisible, submerged under water, yet it can sink huge powerful ships in a moments notice. Remember The Titanic ... The unsinkable ship?

The Mountain: Beautiful and Spectacular. Yet, it can produce a force that man cannot withstand.

The Ant: Very small in size, they never make a sound, yet they are very powerful because they work in unison. And, that being said, many insects fear them, because of their fearless and bold strength.

The Termite: Again, small in size, somewhat fragile. But by the time you see them, the damage is already done.

Remember, these are very small creatures in comparison, yet they are very powerful. And when their work is done you will see the results.

So, the next time you are frustrated, or feeling bullied on the job, at school or even at home, remember you don't have to always poke out your lips, stretch your eyes wide open, clinch your fist, or speak in a voice that can be heard around the office, in the next room or around the block.

The moral to this is: Power is not always expressed loudly. It is sometimes expressed in silence and quietness. And... even with your eyes!!!!


Think about it!!!

I hope this makes sense to you....


These are my thoughts .... I welcome yours!!!

God ....You alone are God!!!

 

An Open Heart .... A Letter To God...

I was not proud of who I am and the things that I’ve done; but what I am proud of is that you love me. I’m proud that you love me because of who you are and in spite of who I am.

Your Grace has always been sufficient and your strength has always been perfect in my weakness.

Today I draw from your strength, because I have none left of my own.

You have been a constant companion in my life even when I refused to acknowledge you; you have been a guide even when I did not choose your paths.

Heavenly Father, My Lord, My Saviour, My Guide, My Strenght and My Provider, your Love has no boundaries, which cannot be compared; Your Wisdom has no limits, Your Grace is un-measurable.

You alone are God!!!

Before I was ever conceived and growing inside of my mother, you God, knew who I was. Before I ever came forth, You knew the challenges I would face, the type of child I would be and the man I would become.

You alone are God!!!

I realize that life is a journey, which has many highways, back roads, Rivers, Ponds, Lakes  Seas, and Oceans.  However, it does not matter which avenue I take, you are there. If I make my bed in hell, Lord God, you are there. If I make my bed in Heaven.... You are there.

You are Omni-Present and you have all Power!!!

Why then, does man chose wrong over right? bad over good?....

You know that I know the answer to that last question.

What is my purpose? What is my destiny?  is what all of mankind should ask!!!

Inspite of who I am, I Love you, Inspite of what I do, I love you.

You have never failed... In you Good will always triumph over bad and Right will always win over wrong!!!

You are God Alone!!!

My Life before you -Lord God, is an open book:

To the readers of this blog... Examine you heart, as I examine mine!!!


These are my thoughts .... I welcome yours....

{Hurt..... .....Pain .... & ..... Memories}

The mind as you know can be as asset as well as a detriment. As events happen in your life, we know that some memories are good and some are bad. Yet life affords us the opportunity to remember and to forget.

But, do we  really, honestly ever forget incidents that happened in our lives?

I reminisce on my youth, family life as a child and I remember so many events that I now realize I've suppressed over the years. Yet, those events have always been an ever present companion, that I knew was there, felt it's presence, but refused to look at or to address it.

So, today I express a moment in time, when hurt was so great, silence was so noisy and finding the remedy as a young boy was simply out of reach!

Today, I choose not hide in my hiding place, which is my mind. You see, my mind, my thought process, my God given ability live to live in a make believe world is not desired today.

As I sit  in my chair, in the dark, at my desk, with just a glee of light, I choose to to express pain, hurt and disappointment, As I remember events from the the first grade, those who have passed on, and those who caused pain, hurt and disappointment in my life....

And here it goes...

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I hurt myself today, to see if I can still feel. I focus on the pain the only thing that’s real.

The pain feels like a needle which tears a hole; an old familiar sting.

I try to kill it all away, but I remember everything. What have I become? My sweetest friend … everyone I love and know goes away in the end.

And, you can have it all, the memories I've suppressed. I will let you down, I will make you hurt. I wear this crown of thorns, upon my liar’s chair, Full of broken and hurtful thoughts I cannot repair.

Beneath the stains of time, the feelings hurt and pain will disappear. You ,someone and somewhere else, I am still right here.

What have I really become. Everyone I know and love goes away in the end. If I could start again a million miles away; I would keep myself; I would find away.

If only I knew back then what I know today!!!

I would love to hear your voice again; Sometimes I wanna call you; But I know you won't be there..


Pain suppressed can be a mindful, ever present companion ... Pain released -- can bring freedom!!!

Who am I, and what have I become? who are you and what what do you wish to be... Please don't enslave yourselves in suppressed memories like me....


Memories .... Of all The Powers Of The Mind, memories are The Most Delicate and The Most Frail....

Just a final note:

It’s going to be a long, long journey. It’s going to be an uphill climb… it’s going to be a tough fight, it’s going to be some lonely nights.


But I’m ready, to carry on... I’m so glad the worst is over….. I can start living now.

I feel like I can do anything… Finally, I’m not afraid to breathe…

Anything you say to me and everything you do, you can’t deny the truth… because I’m living proof…

So many don’t survive; they just don’t make it through…. But look at me … I’m the living proof.

Thinking about a life been painful … It took a while to learn how to smile… So now I’m willing to talk to people about the storm;

I’m so glad the worst is over … coz it is all beneath me now… it is time to start flying I believe I now know how...

My best days are still in front of me and I’m almost there. At this stage in my life my mind is free, my heart is relieved.

Nothing about my life has been easy …. Nothings going to keep me down!!!

I know a lot more today than I did yesterday, so I’m ready to press on.

What I've expresssed may seem strange, but what I've held deep in my heart is oh so real!!!

These are thoughts ... that are real  and emotions that are true.... but, how do my thoughts affect you?

Poems By: Aruna vasant Naik

These poems are from the mind of Aruna Vasant Naik of India...As she writes and, If you listen, you can feel the beat of her heart and understand the thoughts inside of her mind... 

{A Few Drops}

A few drops of rain, making - amazing ripples in its gain

Walking along the muddy shore … I found a smile across my door

Tickling my imagination in this celebration under the rainbow

Running across the paddy fields ….. I blink my eyes watching my teddy

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How I like to soak my self under the crispy sun … lying on the soft bed made of cloud pun

Dancing to and fro swirling in between the blue and purple meadows …….

Watching my paper boat moving by how I feel pretty shy.

When I feel your presence by my side.

By: Aruna Vasant Naik

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...Also...

 

 

Silent Thoughts…

Silent thoughts never to be expressed;

Dancing about the carpet of flowers is a good

experience,

The beauty of the flower lies in the eye of the beholder.

It's very pleasing to see the flower bloom; have you ever heard,

the flower cry?

Its tears are not to be seen, it has made a commitment-not to show them

But, don’t bother to look at the thorns beneath.

It’s the flower which you always admire.

Openness is very cute. But, yes what scared me most is the reason not to speak

Whispering into my dear ears....... the wind just blew....

But, sorry it said I don’t have the answer to the questions you asked.

Some things are never to be taken at heart.....

They are just funny to express... so just leave them-let them stay deep down into your heart

never to be heard and never to be pondered upon!

By: Aruna Naik

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Let me walk alone

Let me walk alone today may be I want to be that way;

I like the silence in the sky ...maybe I would like .to die

Deep within me I feel....high over the lovely cliffs and trees

Underneath the oceans and ice cool breeze I want to feel my own presence

May be I want it that way…

Let me stay..... In this wet space along the muddy land of mysterious island of thoughts

Accompanied by the cherished moments of nature....

By: Aruna Vasant Naik

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These are her thoughts!!!

Relationship .... & .... Love!!!

Relationship as it relates to love. And, here is the definition of a relationship:

Relationship: the connection between two or more people or groups and their involvement with one another, especially as regards the way they behave toward and feel about one another.

Love: An emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Love is central to many religions.


Let’s go a little farther concerning love: Love is patient, kind, unselfish, un-possessive and freely given.


If the definition given above concerning love as it relates to love, then why is it that some many relationships fail?


Why do so many couples start out seemingly the right way and end up wrong?


Is it because the couples are selfish? Or one of the partners are selfish? Could it be because they really don’t understand what a relationship is all about?


Could it be because their relationship is based on sex and not love?

always question a relationship when it takes you away from who you are and blends you into the person your partner wants you to be.

He or She should be willing to except you for who you are and not for who they wish to mold you into being.

Listen up.... change is okay, as long as you have the strenght, courage and freedom to refuse something you are being asked to do that is totally against your charcter.

No matter how long or how much your partner begs, pleads and coherse you to do something, if that which you are being ask to do is against who you truly are,  then - DON'T.

If it continues, you may need to consider a relationship change.....

Relationships are about giving and taking. Sometimes giving 50/60/70% and higher. But trust me, if your partner truly loves and cares for you, then he or she will get the picture or risk losing you all together.

There are love stories that can be told that are like no other. Whether you live in a small country town in South Carolina, Georgia or a big city like New York or simply anywhere, it makes no difference.


Love is never simple … because there are those who are always interfering; such as neighbors, parents, friends and those who wish to see you and the one you love breakup. However, if your love is deep and strong enough, you can overcome those that interfer.

Another reason why love is never simple ... is because of the forgiveness factor. So hear this!!! when you are hurt in a relationship, deeply hurt ... understand that Love is truly forgiveness... Love is when you are willing to forgive someone for something that you thought they would never do to bring you pain. And the willingness to open your heart to allow the healing process to begin.... Which may not be easy ... At All.

The greater issue is - can the two of you overcome your differences and incompatibilites. And, be willing to give up your right for the other person's wrong......

Think before you answer....

"Love is Simple .... People are Complicated"

Lastly ... True love is unconditional and therefore, it does not intentionally cause hurt .... What hurts, is the action and attitude of the one you love, after they have caused you hurt and pain ...

Relationships are never simple!!!
It takes work!!!

 

These are my thoughts ... I welcome yours !!!!!!!