~You Decide ~

Love is a force that no one can contain. It is an untamed force that completes each of us in different ways. And, sometimes when you try to understand it, it can leave you lost and confused. You forgive those who hurt you, you still care for the one who dismantled your heart, and you still reminisce about the good times you had together. You find yourself listening and thinking in silence about that person, and that silence can be so loud until you can feel the very beat of your heart.

Human nature dictates that we should dislike the person who has hurt us, but love says to forgive and to reach out to them, even though they deeply hurt you. Love is a miraculous force that is sometimes unexplainable.

When you  deeply care for someone, it's like planning a vacation. You plan everything out carefully. And, one day you make a wrong turn. There is a detour and you end up in some crazy place where even a map can't get you out (back to each other). It hits you gradually, you're lost. Part of you is hurting, part of you is angry and part of you still cares for that person.

Then there's the solitude segment. Solitude can bring out the worst in you. It gives you time to think, think and think on the nature of things. Allows you time to examine what went wrong, what happened.

It is so strange how someone can be an intricate part of one's life one day and be gone the next. But, if you are going to be honest, truly honest with yourself, then realize that there were signs indicating something was wrong. Not in all cases but I can almost promise you in most. I often make this statement:  A man will always show you who he is, if you open your eyes and heart to see.   Go ahead, reminisce. Think about the good times, fool yourself and forget about the bad times. And I'm sure there were a few bad times. And the few bad times hurt and cut you deeply.

I believe no one should maintain a relationship that is detrimental to their mental, physical, and emotional health. It's unhealthy.  A man and woman has the right to choose who they want in their lives. And, that person may not be you. It does come a time when moving on is in order. Endure the memories, pain, hurt and disappointment. But, life moves forward, the clock of time does not fail to tick, tick, tick.  There is a question: "How long does the pain lasts?

The answer, the pain will last as long as you allow it too. The power is yours! The power is in your control. You control what your heart feels. The pain that you allow in your heart, the pain that you hold on to, is all in your control.

This choice is your yours. I know this is easier said than doing. But the statement still holds true: The choice is still yours. That time table is in your control.

It's safe to walk forward and not backwards. When you spend your efforts looking back, you just might miss the gift that God has placed in front of you.

Review the picture above. There is always a rainbow after a storm. But sometimes we miss it by looking back and holding on to pain.

I hope this makes sense. If it does, then choose to look forward and Live, Love and Laugh like you were dying.

~These are my thoughts ... I welcome yours~