Love's Enduring promise....

In life we encounter so many problems. But, the way we view those problems will determine how soon we will think on a solution. And a solution is waiting, even if the solution is to simply walk away and let go.

I was notified by a friend that her daughter had informed her that she was going to move out of their home and move in with her boyfriend.

This decision was based on a family disagreement......BAD MISTAKE!!! But her decision...

My friend went on to tell me that she could not sleep for crying. She said and I quote "I am not a good parent, I did the best I could for my kids and somewhere, somehow, something went wrong".

Why is my friend beating herself up?... Why is she blaming herself?... Could she be correct? If so, then I guess we all need to start blaming ourselves for the decisions that our children make.

Listen, as parents we can only do our best, and in doing our best we will make mistakes. However, when a child is over 21 and he or she has decided on making a decision that is not wise, and you break it down to them that the decision they are making is not wise, yet they want to do it any way, then the final decision is on them.

1.Proverbs 22:6 (Whole Chapter)Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.This is what I said to my friend:Good morning _____ "believe this, you were and you are good parent. As parents we are forever learning. In our learning we make mistsakes, but you did your best (as you saw it). You protected and provided for your children.

As our children reach adulthood they have the potential to make decisions. And yes, many make the wrong decisions just the way we did.

Never look back unless you can grow and learn. Never allow your heart to have a pity party.

Just as we survived our mistakes, so will they. Always listen with your heart. See and love them through the eyes and heart of God. Trust me ____ one of the hardest things for a parent to do is knowing when to let go. ____ has out grown You and _____. If you must, try and pull them together, use the strength God has given you.

Ask her to stay if you must, but if she refuses, then let her go, but never from your love.


In time your heart will heal and you will see her in a new way. So, cry if you must, but joy comes in the morning. How soon the morning comes depends on you. I love and I will always be here.

Remenber, if it is in her heart to go, then let her go her way. Its time she meet life and it's uncertainties. Let go.... Always Love her....Always keep her bathed in prayer.

If this guy really loves your daughter, then he will do right by her.

So, this is what I wrote for my friend to give her child:

Love's enduring promise...

Always remember that God has written his own story for you;

It is not the feeling of your heart that it should be based upon;

but rather the thoughts of your heart that you need to hear...

Listen for the voice that tells you, this man will care for you, no matter what.

Will he be there to kiss you when you are old and gray?...

Tend to you when you are sick, honor you....

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Mom ... Dad...

Let her know that you will love her regardless of her decisions!!!

Fathers remember, you control the emotional temperature in your home. So, know when to be firm and when to be sensitive to you child's needs. Listen with your heart to understand your child's attitude. Try to understand when they are reaching out.

Always be the bigger, understanding person. After all, you are the parent...
Oh, it is never to late to reconcile with her....{your daughter and your son}...

Never to late....remember that...

when there is a misunderstanding in our home with our children, never get on there level. Always be the parent and listen with your heart.....PLEASE... And say to them what you must as easy as you can, but as firmly as you must..





Happy reading...