~Don’t Be Afraid~

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. What we fail to understand is that we are powerful beyond measure. 

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  Meaning knowledge is truly powerful.

By nature we are accustom to darkness. Meaning we keep secrets, we fear or are concern what others think of us.

In a classroom setting many of us are even afraid of asking questions when we are confused or need something to be explain. This fear stems from not wanting to sound stupid in the eyes of others.

We must understand that knowledge is POWER!

Even, in God’s word He states … “My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge”. (Hosea 4:6).

Are you afraid of knowledge? Are you afraid to be brilliant, gorgeous, attractive, talented and fabulous?

We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, attractive, talented, and fabulous?'

Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world, you or God!

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. And sometimes in love we hold back from giving ourselves fully in fear of being heart!

We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to be creative.

The world revolves around fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life. That is what will make the world and where we love and live a much better place!

Lastly, if you have a dream, a will or desire, there is only one thing that make these things impossible to achieve: And that The fear of failure.

Fear paralyzes the mind. Once that happens our will becomes thwarted and causes us to lose focus. 

God did not give us the spirit fear, but of Power, Love and a Sound (Positive) mind.

~If you share these thoughts, please feel free to leave your comments!

~A Simple Truth~

Whenever I'm ask is how I'm doing most times my reply is Super Duper.

I meet lots of people in town and whenever I travel. I was ask once by  a person  who knows me " hey Super Duper have you ever met a stranger?"

As I thought, my reply was "I don't know". I was ask this question because I was trying to encourage an older gentleman who was complaining on how bad his day was.

Now, what you are about to read is a conclusion from talking to a woman in Starbucks.

The relationship she was in appeared to be failing. From her view point the guy she was dating seemed to be insecure in their relationship.

She felt that he wanted to change her because of his constant questions. She stated that whenever they would talk she would be very careful to answer his questions because she felt as though he would analyze her every word.

She admitted that she was being hurt by him because of his desire and image of a perfect woman.

I didn't say much because I could tell that she desired and needed a listening ear and a compassionate heart to feel her pain.

So I listened... And she talked!

The she ask me what did I think: With hesitation I simply said to her ... "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to change or make you something or someone other than who you are is a great accomplishment".

I went on to say to her, 'If he refuses to except you for who you are, with all of your flaws and imperfections, then he is not the man you need in your life at the moment.

We smiled, chatted about the weather and the traffic and then I left to go meet someone.

What you are about to read is for all who are looking for perfection in your relationships.

Here is Deer in the headlight bulletin!!!

This is first to men and women you are not exempt. This is for you too.

~*******~

You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. 

But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - neither are you, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. 

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break -( her heart). 

So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. 

Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you sad or mad, and miss her when she's not there.

~Just love each other for who you are ... Except things you  cannot change~ 

*If you truly love each other*

Remember this: 

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you for who you are!

So,  is it really difficult to be in love and be friends too?

That being said, we should take the time to apologize to those whom we've hurt, based on our words and actions.

...Your thoughts a very welcomed...

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~You Are Special part II~

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you've never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.

You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.

They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a dream, a whisper, a thought, a picture, a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.

Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid. It’s like being young again. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn't exist at all.

A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you.

You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind,a walk through a grassy field on a breezy day or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.

You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate that will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” 

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~What do You think ... comments are welcome ~

Never Stop Loving...

In love, a person can enter in like a thief and steal your heart. And you become a willing victim. You open up and let him or her see all the parts of you. Even the parts that are not so pretty. And because you love him or her, with every touch they surrender to you, they are able to fix every part of you that is hurting, even the ones that are not so pretty.

In our unawares we build our lives around the people we love and when they are gone we feel a sense of loneliness, emptiness, fear, doubt, etc. Sometimes we need the reassurance of a reason to keep going.

Then, there is the task of starting over again. We fail to realize that even in the mist of heartache and a sense of loss the heart is resilient. The hurt cause by a tragedy only bends our hearts, but it cannot break it. And, yes, you can learn to love again.

Sometimes we don't know the reason why things happen. Our minds run wild with thoughts. These thoughts are usually negative. But we must realize that there is a POSITIVE in everything.

Yes, the heart can be scared, but scars can heal and dissipate. The heart can and will heal and yes, you can learn to love again.

We hold hurt in,  we hold back tears, we develop a sense of wanting to be alone. Anger and frustration can set in. But believe this please, Nothing is as bad as it seems!

Remember,  in life tragedies happen. Most times we are not prepared to deal with them. Yet somehow there is an inner strength that surfaces. When this inner strength surface it is usually done in our unawares.

God has instilled in us a storage of inner strength. However, many never realize this until tragedy hits. Nonetheless, it is there.

Please remember this --- Your heart is just bent not broken. You can live and You can learn to love again.

Don't allow guilt to enter in your heart and mind...

My advice:

• Tell those you love, that you love them.
• Make time for them.
• Love them.
• Do your part.

"Life is a vapor. We are here today and gone tomorrow".

Why did I write this? Was there a need?  Does it make sense to you?

These are my thoughts  ... I welcome yours and your comments!!!

~His words ... My conclusion~

I was sitting at a Starbucks a couple of weeks ago and met a very old man. We began to talk and of course I initiated the conversation.

Before I elaborate on our conversation I would like to share something with you first.

One, we all have a life to live. How we live our lives can easily dictate our future and our death.

Second, God does not necessarily make people famous, He makes us effective. And our effectiveness helps others to become successful, in living.

Thirdly, this man spoke with emotional content, not anger and with meaning.

 This what he said to me:

• "I believe it is better to tell the truth than to lie".
• "I believe it is better to know than to be ignorant".
• "I believe it is better to be free than to be a slave".

To me those words were so profound. To me this was a great man, yet he looked so feeble, his eyes looked so worn, but I believe at one time his eyes were bright and crystal clear. I sensed a man that at one time was a very strong man. I could feel his spirit, though weakened, it was still strong.

You know, I use to believe that there were great men, but after talking to this old gentleman I now know this:

There are no great men, there are only great challenges, that ordinary men are forced by circumstances to meet.

Words, when used correctly can be very powerful. Words have the power to build and to tear down. To encourage and to discourage. Words have the power raise a person up or keep them down.

This man understood the bonds of slavery and from him I learned that to realize freedom, the mind has to learn to look at life, which is a vast movement without the bondage of time. For freedom lies beyond the field of consciousness.

Watch, but don't stop and interpret, "I am free" -then you are living in a memory of something that has gone. To understand and live now, everything of yesterday Must die.(Not necessarily forget).

I learned that the mind must be wide opened to function freely in thought. A limited mind cannot think freely.


After this old gentleman and I completed our conversation, I was encouraged, I felt resurrected and I felt built up, even at my age.

I believe if each of us could understand and digest the words of this man, we would all see things differently than the way we see them now.



I hope you have enjoyed reading this as much as I have enjoyed writing it.

~~~You are Special~~~

This blog writing is primary for those who have been hurt in relationships or have been made to feel inadequate within their relationships.

I simply want you to realize that you are someone special and that you  have a special place in life.

Let no one make you feel inadequate or less than in your relationship! Don't allow yourself to be subject to verbal, mental or physical abuse... 

 ~~~You are Special~~~

Understand that you were destined to be successful in life and you need to think more highly of yourself and demand respect.

 Many of us travel different roads in life. Some of these roads are good, bad or indifferent. Nevertheless, we've traveled them.

Some of the roads we've traveled are very beautiful some are not. Nevertheless we've traveled them.

In our travels we meet people. Some people we meet are good / nice and some are not. Nevertheless we've met them.

Some of you have entered into relationships and were sometimes made to feel not good about yourself. Also you may have gotten  the impression by your significant other that he or she is doing you a favor by being in your life.

Bummer...

Well, I want you to realize this about your self. Therefore I wrote this in the the first person.

• I might not be someone's first choice, but I'm a GREAT CHOICE...!!!

• I may not be millionaire but I'm VALUABLE...!!

• I don't pretend to be someone I'm not because I'm good at being ME.

• I might not be proud of some of the things I've done in the past but I'm proud of whom I am today...!!!

• I may not be perfect because I don't need to be.....

• Take ME as I'm.... or Watch ME as I Walk AWAY...!!!

Listen,  God created you. In Him you are a perfect human being. You are a beautiful person. Except this about yourself, no matter what someone may say negatively about you!!!

~Don't loose yourself in someone's abuse and negativity towards you~

 ~~~You are Special~~~


These are my thoughts ...... I welcome yours!!!

~ Integrity ... Accountability ... Initiative ~

I believe if each of us could or would master and practice daily what I am about to write, the world would be a much better place and our homes would be in harmony.

Each morning when I arise I thank God for allowing me to see another day. I thank Him for my health, my life, family and friends.

I ask Him each morning for Wisdom, Favor, knowledge and a good understanding!

That being said, I believe that most people are good. I believe that most people don't have a terrible problem seeing what's right and wrong. Doing right is sometimes complicated, but knowing what is right usually isn't so hard.

Again, People are basically good. Honor, courage and virtue is everything. Money means nothing, though we need it. I believe that Good always triumph over evil.

Three things are difficult to achieve, yet living by these principles can make us successful in life.

• Integrity -  The quality of possessing and steadfastly adhering to high moral principles or professional standards
• Accountability - Responsible to somebody or for something
• Initiative - the ability to act and make decisions without the help or advice of other people.

Why is it so hard to be honest? That is what integrity is.
Why is it so difficult to be accountable? We are all responsible to someone and for something.
Why is it so hard to take the initiative and be a self starter, without being ask or lead by someone else.

We must raise the bar by taking hold on integrity. We must learn that we are accountable to someone and we must learn to take ownership of things wherever the need lies. This could be in your Home, Job or Church.

Many of us are so afraid of failure, thus making yourself less accountable. Take charge over situations by taking the initiative to be a leader and not always a follower.

Remember, followers are lead around and told what to do. But, people with initiative take charge and tell others what should or need to be done.

There is so much we could discuss on this. So seek out Integrity, Accountability and Initiative. Make them your personal friends. Live by them, Love by them and treat others fair with them.

Know this, the worst thing about being lied to is knowing you were not worth the truth. We all deserve the truth. So, don't lie to yourself and hopefully others won't lie to you about you.

Remember, God is not mock, for what o ever a man sows, that shall he also reap.

These are my thoughts ..... I welcome yours and your comments!!!